We always want our children to do more more and more but never think that what they are already doing has to be appreciated which most of the time we think it’s ok not to praise as my child always knows that I will never think bad for them.
Then comes the day when our children start earning and over here too we always push our kids, that this much money is not enough you need to earn more and how will u survive in future. But again no appreciation comes here that , dear child what u r doing is awesome and keep up the good work and work hard n smart then the further success will follow soon. Then comes the day when child started earning more than last time and in this too we are not satisfied saying that you still need to earn and save more why are you not saving more as now u have a bigger family. Well as a matter of fact again praise and appreciation is lacking here. The child is still at a level always higher than last earning but he is always running either to satisfy his job or his boss or his colleagues then comes dad mom wife. My god always in his life all he has to do is fight for his impression and why to always counter argue for what he is earning ? He is earning more and saving more than last time and that’s enough to prove his worth so just leave it and let that good child earn his living and love his life without any fears and pressures. Stop pressuring your child is what i wanna convey. Creating hunger for more is ok and completely fine but only hunger is not good for blood. Hunger with appreciation will lead the child to success and reach tremendous heights.
Earning : money is a v big factor of life and without which no one can survive. Wife needs something or the other for her home. Mom needs only family to be safe and secure. Money has to be there. Why always u need something. Cannot survive without buying stuff. But no this is not the way we children wanna live. We wanna live the way we want because it’s our life and at some point u have to let us go with all those suggestions and instructions. We will grow by self and we will fall by self. U just be there for us when we need u bas. Enough of pushing pushing for more. Need to be self satisfied with one self. And do not ever put the burden of your own emotions and dreams on your children. They have their own dreams and targets to fulfill. Nowadays the competition is too much more more and more and not like earlier times of the 90s when monopoly works. Now for everything we have lots of options so to survive one need to be calm and tension free. Just keep the man happy and he will make sure to keep the family always happy. Similarly , just keep the women happy and the family will cherish.
Father are the most difficult to understand because what they want from child is that father can never be satisfied and he will never come back and say ok good job. Good you have grown on yourself. You fought to find a job n u got it. Good job. Keep up the spirit. I know this is always hidden in dad mom but nowadays this helps build relationships in family and the family who praises openly stays with each other openly. Never keep things hidden in a family, keep an open book and do not feel shy to share things because this will only help u to understand each other. Do not judge a person by his or her book. Always read through n then decide. Just like that when child says something that doesn’t mean he wants that. There may be a possibility that the child is just sharing info for all.
We compromise on a lot of things and I m not even counting now because life is small and you will not get everything at one go
All these are the loose links and now if we do not recall then we will be -00% ruined.
